Monday, September 7, 2009

ALL Rapists Are Serial Rapists

We, along with KU, were contacted by the state attorney general's office to set up forums about the home invasion rapes that have been occurring over many years. They believe recent rapes in Lawrence may be linked to the ones here in Manhattan.

First, we are grateful for all the work law enforcement does to try and get criminals off the streets.
Second, the education of the public is a clear first step and many folks do not listen to radio, read papers, and talk of such things, so i do indeed meet people who do not know about the
Risks
We
Face each day.
By WE i mean primarily women--young women, older women, very old women. Women who dress like nuns and
women who dress like joggers and women
who dress like me and women who dress like
your mother and your sister and your daughter.
Women who have had a beer, women who have had four beers, teetotalers, Women who have been Given a Drug to make them groggy and forgetful.
(Women who are virgins,
women who have children, women who are partenered or married or chaste or active,
women who trust and are kind to strangers.)
Also children--
very cute and precocious children,
well-trained children, mean disobedient children,
boy and girl children.


Every day i am aware of the Loss of Freedom We endure because we do not want to be Assaulted by Men of our Own Species. We do not want to be kidnapped or held down for a minute or an hour or a day.
We do not want diseases and cuts and bruises.
We do not want another person to belittle and hurt and taunt us, and steal inner things that belong to no one else but us.
We do not want anything rammed into our bodies anywhere.
Read marge Piercy's Rape Poem http://theurbanitch.blogspot.com/2010/01/rape-poem-by-marge-piercy.html to try to understand, if you do not understand.

So,  my point.

We
do not film the sunrise and we do not paint the sunset.
We do not watch the birds on the lake at dusk.
WE do not look at the radically purple and red petunias glowing at the end of light when
the huge humming moths come.
We do not sleep with the windows open, the fresh Flint Hills air bringing hay scent and a horse's whinny, crickets, lavender into our dreamy sleep.
We do not hike alone.
We do not swim alone.
We do not wander the trails at Tuttle, writing poems and sketching the tall ripe grasses.
We do not leave our apartments for a study break at 2, like the Other Students do,
for a tasty pita sandwich in the 'ville.
To lower our risk we have given a lot.
Please
can we all gather to find something new?
And
no matter how much we give up to Lower Our Risk
We are assaulted anyway.
Can we talk about this?


(Someone always suggests that Perhaps
males must Stay In after 8 and are not allowed to Walk Alone during the day in secluded places. this suggestion provokes a group chuckle, then silence
as
the actual daydreamy thought of living
safe freedom in our own space and time--of living without fear--shocks us in its absence.

more HERE.

2 comments:

  1. "steal inner things that belong to no one else but us."

    This is a beautifully succinct way to say this.

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  2. @Anonymous, I was about to make the same comment. "Steal inner things that belong to no one else but us." Because I was intoxicated and not brutally beaten during my assault, I constantly struggle with understanding why the experience was so traumatic to me. My emotional scars far out weigh the physical ones, but this simple sentence really gets to the heart of why rape is so traumatic - someone is stealing what you value the most, your inner self.

    We spend our entire lives creating our sense of selves, and it takes only a few selfish moments for another being to steal this away. We basically have to start from scratch to rebuild this sense of self. It takes a ridiculously large amount of energy and dedication to endure the emotional roller coaster of healing, but we have to remind ourselves that we are worth going through the painful healing process - we deserve to take back what was ours.

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